Happy Winter! & 4 Vital Resources

Hi friends! Happy December! For those of us in the northern hemisphere, in less than a week, our daylight hours will start to increase again– for me, that’s one of the greatest gifts of the holidays.

If you were going to stop reading after that paragraph, that is absolutely fine. However, if you’re going to read anything I post this year (and I’m grateful to say that I have posted/written many things I’m proud of) let it be this.


I’ve collected some resources about making it through the supposedly-delicious holiday season when struggling with/in recovery from an eating disorder, as well as what to do if your friend or family member is struggling with the same thing. You might think- “Wait! That doesn’t apply to me!”

But it almost definitely does. A whopping 95 percent of the people with eating disorders are between the ages of 12 and 25, and those are the ages of many of you who will read this. If that’s not enough, according to the National Institute of Mental Health, 1 in 5 women (!) struggle with an eating disorder. Do you know five women. Ok, so that’s kind of what I’m getting at. (Many men struggle as well, and their rates are even harder to find because so few seek treatment since eating disorders are often minimized as a mental health issue only for ladies.)

This post would be remiss without me mentioning something I almost never do: this post important to me for a lot of reasons. Even if I was only counting good friends with diagnosed or diagnosable eating disorders, it would take more than one hand. As a friend, this matters to me. As a body-positive feminist, this matters to me. And especially as a person who is in recovery from an eating disorder herself, this matters to me.

Thank you,

1. 22 Things People with Eating Disorders Want Others to Know About the Holidays (This one is my favorite one!)


2. 10 Things I Wish People Understood About Eating Disorders (Have this bookmarked and play it out of a speaker the next time someone says something ignorant.)

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3. How to Handle Holidays Feasts When You Have an Eating Disorder  (No matter what’s going on with you, it’s always important to create space for yourself during social times of the year!)


4. Five Tips to Prepare for the Holidays (This one’s a little more clinical.)


Images via Psychology Today, The Mighty, @fyeahmfabello on YouTube, Reddit, & The Mighty


5 Overlooked Costumes for Young Women

I know it’s not Halloween season, but my costume brainstorming never ceases. So, here goes…

  1. Ann & Nancy Wilson in the video for “Alone”

The giant black ballroom dresses. The fishnet veil. The thick-rimmed eyeliner. The leather. THE LEATHER.

This costume is recommended for piano and guitar-players, sisters, and those pairs in which one person has light hair and one person has dark hair. Warnings: the dresses probably weigh a zillion pounds, so they probably won’t be too mobile.

  1. Nani & Lilo from Lilo & Stitch


Being that this is, like, the only Disney cartoon with realistic body types, this is a great one if you feel like your stomach is not flat enough for Halloween– a physically impossibility, btw, because Halloween knows no bounds. Nani has some rockin’-strong thighs and great hair. The only issue is that Lilo needs to be at least three feet shorter than Nani, think that aliens are dogs, and have hair the length of her body.

  1. Alice and the White Rabbit

This is only a problem because someone’s going to get to wear mary janes and a Peter Pan collar and be cute as hell, and the other one is going to have to wear bunny ears, a formal vest, a monocle, and no pants (according to the Tim Burton version, and also just for sharp contrast. People will definitely know who’s who in the pair if you remind them that bunnies don’t wear pants.) I’d recommend drawing straws to decide.

  1. Virginia Woolf & Vita Sackville-West


Excellent costume if you and your girl BFF are both married to different men, all of you are in the artsy in-crowd (you know, like the popular stoner drama-geeks), but you and said friend are actually in a secret and passionate lesbian relationship that your husband is chill with but your girl’s husband is so not. If you like floor-length and poorly-fitted dresses, even better!

  1. Two ears


For those with high pain tolerances, because there are gonna be piercings all over. Since your whole body is an ear, here are the substitutions: a shoulder is the cartilage, a belly button is one of those tragus things, and your knee is your earlobe itself. Go figure.